First date as Interview

A call for application submissions

The Job Posting

Position:

Romantic Partner

The employer seeks a committed, monogamous romantic partner to add joy and contentment to their life. The employer has many commitments and is looking for an experienced and dedicated partner who is ready to hit the ground running. The ideal candidate can work independently in a slow-paced and cozy environment most of the time and a loud, energetic environment some of the time.

Effective Date:

Open until filled

Time commitment: Part-time (10 hours per week minimum) to start, with potential for full-time employment. Nights and weekends are required.

Anticipated start date: September 2026

Required Qualifications:

• Aged 21+

• Demonstrated skills in providing sensual pleasure, including foot massages, clitoral stimulation, eye contact, and kissing.

• Seeks to understand before seeking to be understood.

• Responsible for paying your own bills, including housing and transportation

• Clean criminal record

• A wicked sense of humor that is never targeted at your romantic partner

• Flexibility in thinking, planning, organizing, and executing day-to-day plans

• Applied care to personal hygiene

• Highly coachable. Welcomes feedback on performance and proactively seeks professional development.

• Demonstrated commitment to finishing tasks that have been started according to predetermined specifications

• Track record of humility, self-reflection, and interest in personal growth

• Demonstrated values of integrity, accountability, and honesty

• Sensitivity to issues affecting marginalized populations, including women, children, minorities, and low-socioeconomic status individuals

• History of successful relationship conflict navigation

Preferred Qualifications:

• Aged 40+

• Vasectomy

• Divorced

• Parent

• Resides in Southern California with no desire to live anywhere else

• Understands the difference between chivalry and misogyny

• Values formal education

• Actively participates in service to the community

• Not allergic to cats

Duties:

• Minimum of weekly date nights—some in, some out

• Participate in co-created activities

• Maintain a consistent line of communication

• Actively engage in cleaning up after yourself and maintaining a safe and presentable living space

• Watch movies, play games, and spend leisure time with partner outside of sexual duties

• Provide regular sexual pleasure to your partner per their specifications, and clearly and warmly communicate your own needs

• Contribute to date night planning, future planning, and vacation planning activities

• Accompany partner to social events. Invite partner to social events

• Maintain an atmosphere of trust, relaxation, and dependability

Benefits:

The successful candidate will gain a partner dedicated to mutual happiness as well as individual growth. This position includes frequent massages and occasional prepared meals. Nightly or as-needed vent sessions and daydream collaboration are provided. Communication is a key value. Performance evaluations are delivered in-the-moment with direct feedback and the opportunity for reflection and negotiation. Feeling appreciated, cared for, and supported are all expectations of the employer, as well as standard benefits of employment.

Tips for a successful application

• Avoid sending dick pics

• Do not expect constant, instant communication. The employer is busy and expects applicants to be as well. Do respond appropriately and promptly to urgent requests

• Proactively ask questions with curiosity

• Dress comfortably and do not comment on the employer’s attire.

Evaluation Process

1. Employer will review applications for completeness and will correspond with the applicant to fill any gaps in the job application

2. An initial interview will be set up in a public location convenient to the employer. The applicant must initiate this and pay for all expenses of the agreed upon activity

3. If the applicant passes the initial interview stage, the employer will set up a second interview within a week of the first interview

4. The second interview will assess potential for intimacy and a vibe check beyond the first impression. All expenses will again be paid by the applicant, though the location may be convenient to both the applicant and the employer

5. If the applicant passes the second interview, a contract of expectations for employment will be co-created and agreed upon by both parties

6. Upon agreement of contract terms, a three-month trial period will begin. This is the training phase. If at any time the terms of the contract are broken or either party wishes to disengage from the arrangement, this needs to be clearly communicated without malice and with respect

Finally, this is an at-will position. At this time, the employer cannot accommodate applicants who are in-between jobs or living situations, have just gotten out of a bad relationship, or who do not understand without exception that the employer’s children will always come first.

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